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The Bill of Rights has been modified and updated as the times changed. I believe we could change it so that we are safer and most gun owners are happy. Gun owners are rightfully worried that people will continue to work until they no longer have guns. However, if we could make reasonable changes and then go no further, I think the culture of our nation would also change just enough to make us as safe as other nations.

Background checks, greater oversight in who has guns and sells them, mental fitness requirements are things that most gun owners would be willing to go through, but would stop the glorification of militia type thinking.

The problem is the NRA needs to keep fighting and stirring up fears that we will outlaw guns. If they don’t, their membership would would be decimated. (Both liberals and conservatives have rhetoric that goes too far). Again though, I understand the fear that people will not stop making laws until guns are outlawed.

Then we free up resources to attack violence in other ways. However, there seems little in the way of great ideas on both sides. Restrictions and oversight to guns has stopped shooters. We just don’t know about it. It would be worth it to stop a few more.

 

The above is a response to someone on Facebook that lives in Rural Wisconsin #SharonWisconsin who responded to a post by stating she needed an AK-47 to shoot Coyoytes.  Her husbands response to this was yawn.

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Kindness is Powerful

I was at the checkout line.  It was a lady buying things with her food stamp card and then separate thing with cask.  Between her and I, was a big burly guy.

This was before work, and I was in a hurry.  So I was thinking bad thoughts about this woman ahead of me.  When she came up short on cash, I thought, okay, here we go.  That guy is going to give her hell. I relished the thought.

Instead he held out the two dollars and said, I got it. Don’t worry about it.

For two dollars, that guy got two feel a hundred dollars with of good.  The woman was appreciative. I got to see kindness.

 

Kindness is powerful.

 

Kindness can transform. Yes, it can be taken advantage of, but it makes me think of poverty in the United States. How our country can provide support and help out the disadvantaged minority (inner city blacks).

 

We see problems and blame welfare.  Perhaps, though it is not the welfare. Getting something for free, is not creating problems. Perhaps it is our duplicitous nature.  Half of us, want to provide assistance and some of us then judge.  We call people lazy and bad.

 

I simply think it possible that our judging is causing the problems.  What do people of color hear them labeled and called. Perhaps that is what they are reacting to. That’s the problem in my opinion.  We give with one hand and slap faces with the other. How would you react.  Thankful for the assistance or angry and hurt from the other.

 

Kindness is powerful.  It could transform our country. Put safeguards in assistance, require effort on the recipients, and reward people for getting past it. But also quiet the judging and the anger.

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I blame mike perry

1/25/14

I blame Michael Perry

Michael Perry is an author.
His writing reminded me of driving tractor. Sitting on the metal seat of a Farmall and holding the spindly, hand-blackening steering wheel. I would stand and steer like it was a ship. After all the steering wheel was vertical. The exhaust would roar which was good because there was nothing else to do but think or sing and I sometimes did both at the top of my voice. At the end of the day, my hands would vibrate from the pull of the terrain and the churning of the engine. The big tractor was a different ride. The seat had a cushion, the steering wheel adjusted (I think). One had a cab and a radio. Yet the main difference I think was that these tractors had fenders over the wheels. Something you could rest your hand on or a rider could sit on. It was just more substantial. Yet looking back, I miss the small tractors. Seeing the v-shaped tread go past like a water mill. You got on the platform between the two turning giants wheels and you were as basic as the transmission box.

We had our trees. There was the big pine near the house. The dogs laid under it, the perfect location of coolness and closeness to a bone thrown out the door. We had the tree down the yard. Convenient, especially as a brake when theyoungest put a car in neutral and went for a ride. There was the trees in the back, one forked and the canopy for the sandbox. Then there was the rows of pines for a windbreak that was close to the house and yet it was possible to go to a different world as we scrambled among the branches. We cleared a path. There was a sunny world just beyond it. Weedy graveyard of used up farm equipment and the fields beyond that. I suspect beyond that was the world, but I never found out.

The trees of my dreams, however, are the two trees between the barn and the house. Along the walkway but set back on the lawn. That was where the lawn chairs were setup. Whether it was a party or grandpa and grandma or just us kids, it was our patio, our visitors center.

 

 

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My Brother Has Cancer

My brother has cancer. And he is a prime example of why health care reform is important. Universal Healthcare is not some sort of socialist conspiracy. It is a solution to a problem.  Our government used to see something that needed to happen and then fixed it. Whether it was a transcontinental railroad, interstates, or segregation. Now we are a nation and government of squabbling.  We blame the politicians, but they respond to us.

My brother does not have healthcare because he did not work for a place that helped him get it. On his own, it was too expensive. Conservatives, I suppose, think that’s his problem. Well, it is a problem you could just have easily been in. So he could not go to the doctor. In the same situation, I would have done the same thing.

He is receiving care. That’s not the point. The point is, he would have been better off and healthcare would be cheaper if people like him had access to regular checkup and the ability to go in and catch the cancer early.

In the end, only the government can help.  That is the role of government. To step in. I do not see any religious organizations stepping up to take the burden from government (Many, many, religious organizations though do wonderful things).

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Poor is Okay

Poor is okay as long as everybody is okay. However, today we have a big gap between the haves and haves not. We must challenge the idea that those that are rich are only to be envied and emulated.

 

We should validate the believe that struggling and taking care of yourself makes you into a better person. However, welfare and assistance does not make life easier. Welfare should not be our primary concern.

 

It is that widening gap between the rich and the working class. What we are seeing is organization and wealth taking control of our government and they are doing it by preaching about strong american values.

 

We are slowly creating the same divinity in our rich that kept people suffering for centuries under monarchies. Donald Trump as president is culmination of that and our warning sign.

 

I am not suggesting that we take away the motivation of wealth. WEe do, however, have to acknowledge that money is power and people are using it to consolidate power. The rich are .right now making our government into Corporatocracy.  They have gerrymandered the voting districts, rolling back regulations put into place to stop corrupt business practices, making their voices the only ones heard in Washington, and destroying the unions.

 

I do struggle with progressive taxing- taking a larger percentage of income because someone has more. This negates the hard work that many people do to have security and wealth. However, successful people must also acknowledge that it is not just their hard work. Things would be different if not for our country and our security. Our infrastructure and our freedoms.

 

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Chat Her Up

Last weekend, after dealing with a talkative best buy employee, my daughter talked about how women had to deal with attention. Men finding reasons to engage with a female and chat her up based on their looks and that they are female.  She stated just as a fact of life.

I think I have always been sensitive to this. I always thought that that woman (girl depending on my age) was getting enough attention.  She didn’t need another guy giving her attention just because she has nice looks.

To be honest, the reason I most likely did that because I did the attention math.  With so many men vying for her attention, a better looking guy was going to win out so why bother.

Is it another truth that the pretty woman ended up with an uggo? Perhaps, but I also could not display the confidence that might attract a woman either.

In my book The Tao of Apathy, I even addressed this with a character who had a name, but was often called “The pretty housekeeper.”  Don’t worry, I did make her a three dimensional, powerful woman. However, she represents the way a pretty woman gets attention at work.

I remember working at a place and a guy telling me of this hot college girl that worked at a factory of the summer.  When it came time for her to go back to school, she got a party and a cake.  At the same time was a guy that retired.  He didn’t get any of that.

I think my daughter is reporting accurately about this. This is where things start and it leads to sexual harassment.

Advocate, Advocate, Advocate

You are your child’s advocate in any level of planning meetings, the professionals do want good things for your child.  But it is within the framework of what is best for themselves and their institution.

My son required quite extensive interventions when he was younger.  In home therapy, early childhood, speech, OT, etc.  We were  blessed that he made so much progress that his needs fell away.  At one point, the only thing addressed on the iep was speech and he did not really need that. It was clear that they wanted to keep him in special education to keep that special education money.

Sometimes, it works the opposite. Professionals want to do what will save money and manpower by not giving your child what they need.

Sometimes the plan they want to enact is simply not a good one for your child. Dealing with Autism, you may not be objective when it comes to your child. Sometimes it will feel like people are judging you.

However, professionals lose their objectivity as well. Seeing themselves as professionals, they believe they are correct on all things.

Even if they begin to cringe when they see you, you have a strong voice in the plan.  If they are not working in the BEST interests of your child, there is a process and ways to fix that.

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Life is new when you are new

I think in giving advice to young people, too often we overlook that they are experiencing things for the first time.  From love to heartbreak, we apply our view to how they might feel.

 

Instead we should validate their feelings. They are strong and teenagers are dramatic because if feels overwhelming. What we can do is explain that things will get easier. With age comes the lesson that heartbreak is not so bad because we have gone through it. We learned that we will be okay.  That good follows it. Then the next time heartbreak happens, it affects us less because it is not the end of the world. It is life. This is not numbness, but an overall appreciation aat looking at our lives as a whole and not just focusing on the heartbreak.

 

Are Men Pigs

Are men pigs?       In some ways.

But society also teaches us.  Perhaps some men are born assholes.  Other achieve asshole status, and some have it thrust upon them.

How is society set up? First of all, it is set up for woman to be objects and then teaches them its best to keep quiet.

Also, though, it teaches men that they must be bold and confident. That they need to go after what they want. That it is a feather in your cap to go after a woman that other men want and win.

Some of that comes from caveman times. But what if we all learned to look at people from the inside first. That is not so easy. Men’s head will always turn when a nice looking woman comes around. Men are visual creatures (more specific type of creature- pigs).

But we need to teach men not to score with women and keep score. While we teacher our daughters to be strong, independent, and confident, we also need to teach our boys to see beauty, but to look for real genuine relationships.

We would all be better off looking for and enjoying the interaction we have with people. I guess I’m saying we should go about our business, looking for the beauty on the inside and then pursuing a romantic relationship only when both the man and woman feel that spark of chemistry.

Too often men, look for “hotness” and go after that, disregarding whether or not they actually like the woman.

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