Kindness is Powerful

I was at the checkout line.  It was a lady buying things with her food stamp card and then separate thing with cask.  Between her and I, was a big burly guy.

This was before work, and I was in a hurry.  So I was thinking bad thoughts about this woman ahead of me.  When she came up short on cash, I thought, okay, here we go.  That guy is going to give her hell. I relished the thought.

Instead he held out the two dollars and said, I got it. Don’t worry about it.

For two dollars, that guy got two feel a hundred dollars with of good.  The woman was appreciative. I got to see kindness.

 

Kindness is powerful.

 

Kindness can transform. Yes, it can be taken advantage of, but it makes me think of poverty in the United States. How our country can provide support and help out the disadvantaged minority (inner city blacks).

 

We see problems and blame welfare.  Perhaps, though it is not the welfare. Getting something for free, is not creating problems. Perhaps it is our duplicitous nature.  Half of us, want to provide assistance and some of us then judge.  We call people lazy and bad.

 

I simply think it possible that our judging is causing the problems.  What do people of color hear them labeled and called. Perhaps that is what they are reacting to. That’s the problem in my opinion.  We give with one hand and slap faces with the other. How would you react.  Thankful for the assistance or angry and hurt from the other.

 

Kindness is powerful.  It could transform our country. Put safeguards in assistance, require effort on the recipients, and reward people for getting past it. But also quiet the judging and the anger.

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My Brother Has Cancer

My brother has cancer. And he is a prime example of why health care reform is important. Universal Healthcare is not some sort of socialist conspiracy. It is a solution to a problem.  Our government used to see something that needed to happen and then fixed it. Whether it was a transcontinental railroad, interstates, or segregation. Now we are a nation and government of squabbling.  We blame the politicians, but they respond to us.

My brother does not have healthcare because he did not work for a place that helped him get it. On his own, it was too expensive. Conservatives, I suppose, think that’s his problem. Well, it is a problem you could just have easily been in. So he could not go to the doctor. In the same situation, I would have done the same thing.

He is receiving care. That’s not the point. The point is, he would have been better off and healthcare would be cheaper if people like him had access to regular checkup and the ability to go in and catch the cancer early.

In the end, only the government can help.  That is the role of government. To step in. I do not see any religious organizations stepping up to take the burden from government (Many, many, religious organizations though do wonderful things).

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Poor is Okay

Poor is okay as long as everybody is okay. However, today we have a big gap between the haves and haves not. We must challenge the idea that those that are rich are only to be envied and emulated.

 

We should validate the believe that struggling and taking care of yourself makes you into a better person. However, welfare and assistance does not make life easier. Welfare should not be our primary concern.

 

It is that widening gap between the rich and the working class. What we are seeing is organization and wealth taking control of our government and they are doing it by preaching about strong american values.

 

We are slowly creating the same divinity in our rich that kept people suffering for centuries under monarchies. Donald Trump as president is culmination of that and our warning sign.

 

I am not suggesting that we take away the motivation of wealth. WEe do, however, have to acknowledge that money is power and people are using it to consolidate power. The rich are .right now making our government into Corporatocracy.  They have gerrymandered the voting districts, rolling back regulations put into place to stop corrupt business practices, making their voices the only ones heard in Washington, and destroying the unions.

 

I do struggle with progressive taxing- taking a larger percentage of income because someone has more. This negates the hard work that many people do to have security and wealth. However, successful people must also acknowledge that it is not just their hard work. Things would be different if not for our country and our security. Our infrastructure and our freedoms.

 

Their opportunities was created by a environment and that was influenced by our government. Now that they have theirs, they want it to stop before it helps others.pretty good book.jpg

Are Men Pigs

Are men pigs?       In some ways.

But society also teaches us.  Perhaps some men are born assholes.  Other achieve asshole status, and some have it thrust upon them.

How is society set up? First of all, it is set up for woman to be objects and then teaches them its best to keep quiet.

Also, though, it teaches men that they must be bold and confident. That they need to go after what they want. That it is a feather in your cap to go after a woman that other men want and win.

Some of that comes from caveman times. But what if we all learned to look at people from the inside first. That is not so easy. Men’s head will always turn when a nice looking woman comes around. Men are visual creatures (more specific type of creature- pigs).

But we need to teach men not to score with women and keep score. While we teacher our daughters to be strong, independent, and confident, we also need to teach our boys to see beauty, but to look for real genuine relationships.

We would all be better off looking for and enjoying the interaction we have with people. I guess I’m saying we should go about our business, looking for the beauty on the inside and then pursuing a romantic relationship only when both the man and woman feel that spark of chemistry.

Too often men, look for “hotness” and go after that, disregarding whether or not they actually like the woman.

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All Lives Matter

Would black people be better off focusing on what they have and the blessings in their life. To always be thankful they live in a good country? I believe so.
However, I see a direct correlation with those that believe that blacks should stop complaining and how much they think white men are the new minority. What I mean is the more certain people believe that the white male is a target of unfairness, the more they say black people should be grateful.
To a certain extent, all people have things they struggle with. However, racism is real. Facts are facts. More black men are killed by the police. More black people are incarcerated. The simple act of profiling makes them angry as it should. It would make them angry.
So, too many people are whining that white males don’t have it fair. That other people have it more fair. Besides being wrong, it is weak. It is babyish.

Yet people get mad over black lives matter. They say all lives matter. In this they see reverse racism. However, they are not using violent rhetoric. There are people calling for black people to be eraidicated from the country. To be sent back to AFRICA.
People that are not racist, but want black people to quiet down, are an echo of our recent racist past.

Charlottesville’s White Supremacy Rally

Violence was not the right response. It only fueled the hatred. Yet the alt-right were chanting for the end of Jews and the beginning of ethnic cleansing. I am trying to think of a good analogy. The best I can think of is what if OJ’s children went to the Goldman’s house and began chanting that someone needed to exterminate the rest of the Goldman’s. Or would people not want to react angrily if the Muslim’s rose up in our country and called for the end of all Christians. Would there be no Christians waiting for them with weapons? To me, it was wrong but understandable. And the protestors didn’t run people over with a car.

Words are Stronger than Facts

Nobody likes what they have. There is always something better and it is in our nature to find problems. Perhaps most importantly, nothing is perfect, but we want things to be.
And that is why Trump was elected. He is a salesman and he used salesman techniques to sell himself. I noticed that seeing all of his promises put together. He promised everything. Health care that did everything and was cheaper. He promised a balanced budget that expanded the military. This is low-balling.
According to Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 22 Mar. 2017, Definition of lowball
transitive verb
1 : to give (a customer) a deceptively low price or cost estimate
2 : to give a markedly or unfairly low offer

He gave the racists what he wanted. He promised them what they wanted while saying no one is less racist than me. In this way, he won over the racist and many moderates. He gave the fundamentalist what they wanted by being anti-abortion. Then he promised the large amount of disgruntled voters what they wanted. That he was not beholding to politicians or greedy Wall Street jerks. He still says that while putting those exact kind of people in position of power. Words are more powerful than facts.
He does not care. His job was to land the big client, the American people. He wants to go on and keep selling and leave the delivery to Bannon and his crew. He may not even support what they are doing, but he is not concerned with that. That is not his skill set so he is not even going to try. Instead, he’s going back on the road and do some more selling. That is where the adrenaline rush is.
Selling is his comfort zone. It is a money-getting skill, but you don’t have to be brilliant for it. You just used the time-tested techniques. So it’s how he approaches everything. Dealing with reporters and dealing with foreign heads of state. He believes that he can succeed with his limited skill set. However, his ad campaign of a ,er, campaign worked on the individual voter and running a government is not. After all, as Abraham Lincoln said, You can’t play a player,

Mother’s Day Post Too Late

The United States foreign policy needs to mimic an effective force. A mother. When they are not causing trouble, the mother remains quiet. When a child comes to them, they are loving. They pour on the love and support. But if the child disobeys and gets into a fight with someone else, mom goes apeshit. She wants you to regret acting out and she makes sure that you do.

Then if the child gets into a fight and it is not his fault, watch out. She will protect that child and make the other child pay.

But children act out. So she puts them on a timeout, and if that doesn’t work, the mother may back him into a corner with a big spoon until the child acts the same way. Then a little later, if that child comes and needs something, she opens her arms wide. She tries to make everything all better. Then she is back to nurturing. Helping the child to grow and succeed.

She wants the child to succeed. She also wants a little thanks. She most likely won’t get it. Yet she continues to help and encourage. She shows by example even though there is nothing in it for her.

As long as you don’t mess with her. As long as you don’t fuck up big time. Because she never rests. She has eyes on that child (and in the back of her head, ie. drones). She will help that child to be self-sufficient and good. But even after that child has grown up, watch out. She believes you are not so old that you can’t be bent over and given a spanking.

Even then, you still respect mom. Because she makes the best meals at Thanksgiving. You try not to attack another person and threaten them with nuclear annihilation.

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There will be a new regime in religion. Just as the Jewish faith had corruption and people go away from the values and Jesus came in to renew people and advance people to a better way, there will be a new religion.

There were the moneychangers and the priests that kept people in line and they stayed above common people, there will be a CHANGE.

The PEOPLE that use bible to judge and condemn and allow themselves to make new wealth at the expense of the poor will be turned out and a finger will be pointed at them.. perhaps it will be a new messiah that metaphorically overturns their tables.

Maybe it ill be a metaphorical messiah that overturns the actual money tables.

Otherwise I do not understand what fundamental Christians are about. Do not give transgendered people rights. We don’t need those filthy degnerates having their own bathrooms. Even if you were to believe that transgendered is a choice and a mistake, shouldn’t you be treating them with kindness? lead them to God, because you cannot drive anyone to religion.

Do you think that you vitriole and hatred is going to attract them? They do not want to anything to do with religion, not because they are heathens, but because you are angry and ugly.

Abortion from Hugs

Sex is not something you can’t live without, but it is a strong drive. There is not something analogous to it because our species need it to survive and thrive. There is judgment in prolifer’s zealousness to end abortion.

No, they would not be for it, but if it was not making the beast with two backs, instead of outlawing it, they would actually be trying to solve it. I will temper this by saying that prolifers are also worried about the direction of our society. There is evidence that suggest that they should be.

However, judgement and yes punishment is not the way to go. What if pregnancy was caused by hugging children. Nothing sexual, just a hug. Let’s say there was a 50/50 chance that you would get pregnant (man or woman) by hugging your own children or your newborn nephew. Your first grandchild. Or your second. or any child.

It is something you could live without. Yet, your feelings would tell you to do it. Our society and I believe our species require affection to our young. Not the same pleasure response. But a pleasure response nonetheless. Some people enjoy their children more than sex.

But my scenario takes the judgement out of abortion. Would we be trying to make law against hugging children. Would we say only married people could hugging young people. If someone slipped up and hugged a child, would we force that person to carry a baby? We would understand the drive to want to hug a child. Would there be people that would say, you can’t abort the child now. Take it as a blessing from God. Yes.

And yet, there would be a hell of a lot less judgement. You say that’s different. It is important to hug children and it is a positive, nurturing activity. So is sex. That is why we have a sex drive. And people have sex for the wrong reasons, but sometimes people hug children for the wrong reason. The single dad is lonely and their child is the only one that loves them. The aunt without children of her own is too attached to her niece and nephew to fill a need.

Without judgement and condemnation, there would be a solution to the problem. There would be a pill to take or a vaccination and everyone would know about it and it would be free. Men would think, I don’t have time to have a child, I have things to do. Those men against abortion gain their vehemence from a perhaps hidden, but deep wish that women were still the people that stayed at home and were subservient. There are women who believe this as well and could stay home and have as many children as they could afford.

You say my scenario is not realistic. So what, but maybe the touch of a children would cause the production of chemicals. Sex is just the efficient way to combine those chemicals

Not in God’s plan? God made sex between a man and a married. Who is not to say that God’s test is abortion and the answer is to stop taking sides and work together to solve the actual problem.